Amazon Reviews

 1)   [5.0 out of 5 stars] This author has his Pulse on Control -, August 26, 2009

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lean_bot (Orange County, CA) - See all my reviews

In  the introduction the author makes his intentions known that he is  giving the reader a tool to recognize "how control or an excessive need  for it can affect their lives and the lives of those around them."

The  chapters are broken into isolated true stories that have a tendency to  focus on a particular form of control or a specific subjects (e.g.  anorexia) and why or how it may have manifested in the particular's  individuals background.

Chapter 2 ended with an interesting  statement. This chapter was about Suri and her controlling methods but  it left the one being controlled with the following "it was only after  .... Lane realized what form of control she had let take over her own  life."

I thought p 251 was interesting it mentions that "when  someone finally stands up to them or addresses their rudeness,  disrespect, abuse, or disregard for everyone around them, they work very  hard to convince others that they are the victims."

What I also  learned is that control can take a small form in simple social  interactions. p 189 mentions that "controlling people often attempt to  engage others in conversations, then end up holding them there  unnaturally, making it difficult for others to leave."

In summary  the author mentions "What the professor did not say was that you will  never reach your potential if you are trying to control another person  or being controlled in an unhealthy way by other people." p 260

I have gained a comprehensive understanding of control how it impacts others and the one doing the control.

Note: I met this author briefly at the 2009 UCLA book festival. Thank you for writing this book.........

2)  [5.0 out of 5 stars] Everyone should read this, July 10, 2009

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The8thdayman (Phoenix, AZ) - See all my reviews

I  like this because it shows you how people who control or manipulate. I  would much rather get my information in the form of a story, rather than  a "how-to" kind of book. It's a series of good stories if that's all  you want, but underneath the stories are lessons and hints about how to  be free or less inhibited if you want more...

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