by LaMont Prospect
344 pages / Self-Help / Non-Fiction
$34.50 USD Hardcover / $22.50 USD Paperback
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CONTROL is all around us-between husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, parents and children, teachers and students, and bosses and employees. Even though LaMont Prospect earned a Bachelor's Degree in English (UW-Madison), a Master's Degree in Social Work (UW-Milwaukee) and a Doctorate in School Psychology (Loyola University-Chicago), this book does not preach or tell people what to do or how to live their lives. It has no psychological jargon or textbook language. If someone was to say "you need to do A, B, C and D with your life," that would be controlling. Of the 44 chapters, thirty-four are real stories about real people and how the need for control ruined their lives and the lives of others around them. The other 10 chapters are about entities that try to control people. While some of these entities may seem rather obvious, most forms of control are very subtle. The goal is to help readers recognize unhealthy forms of control and how to deal with it.
About LaMont Prospect
LaMont Prospect was born in Racine, WI. After earning a BA in English (UW-Madison, 1981), he worked in the Racine Theatre Guild where he landed leading roles in "The Drunkard," "A Bed Full of Foreigners," and "The Three Cuckolds". Upon returning to Madison to complete a minor in Theatre/Arts, he was cast as William Shakespeare in an MFA production of "Dark Lady of the Sonnets." For a brief time, he worked professionally in the improv comedy group "The Ark" (Joan Cusack among its cast members) and subsequently appeared in three independent films: "Momma's Boy," "Tagged," and "An Addict for my Addictions."
Prospect's acting career was side-tracked, however, when the demands of a family business took him to Florida to manage a 40-acre orange grove. Eventually, he moved to Milwaukee to work in the family travel agency which afforded him the opportunity to visit Japan, Taiwan, China, Italy, Greece, England, Portugal, Kenya, Canada, and the Netherlands.
After leaving the family business, Prospect earned an MS in Social Work (UW-Milwaukee, 1993), and also co-authored the article "Behavioral Profiles of Pre-School, Latency, and Teenage Female Incest Victims" (Child Abuse and Neglect) with Professor Elizabeth Sirles. He completed his PhD in School Psychology (Loyola University of Chicago, 1999), with his dissertation-"Raising Math Scores on the Illinois Goals Assessment Test"-involving 1200+ children in the Chicago Public Schools. Licensed in both School Psychology and School Social Work, Prospect has been employed as a School Psychologist in the Milwaukee Public Schools for the last 10 years, where he has worked with hundreds of students, teachers, principals and parents both in regular and special education.
In 2008, Prospect published CONTROL-A Book About People With An Excessive Need to Control Other People Or Things And About People Who Allow Themselves to Be Controlled By Other People And Things. Prospect has been exhibiting CONTROL all over the U.S. at such places as the 2009 NY Center for Independent Publisher's Book Fair, the 2009 LA Times Festival of Books Fair, the 2009 Printer's Row Chicago Book Fair, the 2009 Wisconsin State Fair, the 2009 Decatur Book Festival (GA), and the 2009 Miami Book Festival.
Discussion Points with LaMont Prospect,
Author of CONTROL
1. What was the impetus that inspired you to write CONTROL?
One day, I woke up and began thinking about my life. I realized that even though I have a good education and a good job, I did not feel entirely happy. I began to examine people and things around me. I started to think about the affect certain people and things can have over your life. This is what inspired me to write this book.
2. How does "control" manifest itself into our everyday lives?
The excessive need for control is all around us. It can affect us in jobs, relationships, and even in school. If one is not able to recognize how a person or thing is affecting them, a person may end up living someone else's version of their and never self-actualize or live the life one was intended to live. This book examines the way an excessive need for control can affect husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, parents and children, teachers and students as well as bosses and employees.
3. How did you find people who were willing to relate personal narrative and be open with you about their control issues?
All of the stories were written through observation and personal experience. In order to protect any of the relatives or friends of people I knew, the names were changed in the book. Other than that, the stories are all true and nothing was embellished.
4. What insight can you give to those who suffer from control issues (both victims and aggressors)?
The book was written to help both victims and aggressors recognize unhealthy forms of control. Often times, a person may not even know that they are being controlled or acting in a controlling manner because many forms of control are very subtle. Once a person is able to recognize these unhealthy forms of control, it is up to them to find the best way to avoid such situations or work towards a better life no matter how bleak a circumstance may be.
5. Who is your intended audience for CONTROL? Who would benefit most from reading your book?
Since control (or the attempt at it) is something that almost everyone has to deal with, this book is for everyone. It should be noted that this book does not offer any easy answers. Many situations that involve control are quite complicated, and some situations vary depending upon the person you are dealing with, such as a mother, a father, a boss, or friend.
6. How do people become "control freaks"?
I prefer to say "people with an excessive need for control" rather than using a label like "control freak." Often times, a person's attempt to control someone may be in direct relation to how chaotic things are within that person. The more chaotic things may be for an individual, the more he or she may have a desire to control other people and things. Depending upon the situation, a person may voluntarily decide to try to control another person, or in some instances, be asked to do it. The desire to control someone or allow yourself to be controlled may be conscious or unconscious.